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“giving advice” on anything. I can be a sounding board and share my own experiences with anything in life…but advice…..really is useless…….if the person asking doesn’t have a clue to what they are …
This is a great read! Think about this, especially when reading one of those answers to the perennial question “how can I get my wife/gf to do this to me?”
I’ve been fascinated by the stainless steel chastity devices for a while. They represent a sort of “extreme” that I have regarded with both curiosity and a little trepidation. I began my chastity journey with a CB2000, after a few years moved to a CB6000, and now I felt ready to try something in metal. But which one?
I’m not pierced, and am not going to be, so that ruled out all of the beautifully crafted and expensive Lori devices. (I’m aware that Lori has a device for non-pierced but I ruled it out for other reasons) With those off the table what were my other choices? I immediately ruled out those with urethral plugs and tubes. I can’t see that being comfortable for me and potentially the source of injury or infection. I know how sensitive I can be there from various play when I was much younger. I’m sure age hasn’t toughened me up in that location.
I’ve always liked the “barred” look of the 2000, but find that the more anatomically designed 6000 actually seems to avoid edema better. Many of the stainless steel devices out there are barred, but some like the “bird cage” have such thin bars and wide spacing that I could see lots of stimulation being possible with the device on. That’s an interesting angle to play with, but not what I was after. Likewise, those that leave the head completely exposed while encasing the shaft completely offer a similar opportunity.
So the choices came down to some form of barred (or open holes) that were big enough to allow air and drainage without being so big as to make stimulation easy. The next criteria had to be on sizing. Amazingly, a large number of these devices are offered in only one cuff ring size. I can’t imagine why anyone would think that’s a good idea to limit one’s market like that. I know from personal experience that as little as 1/8th inch in diameter of the cuff ring can be the difference between too tight and just right, or just right and too loose. So being a long time wearer I knew what size I would need and if no options for a different cuff ring size were available, the device went off the short list.
I like the solid cuff rings. There are less potential points for irritation and pinching. And when the device is removed, the solid cuff ring can be left in place as a bit of an erection enhancer/helper. (Very helpful to us males in the 60+ age group) However, the solid ring was less of a “deal breaker” than the other features.
When all was said and done, I selected the Bon4M. The price was reasonable, and delivery quick and discreet. The cuff ring uses a hinge at the bottom, but its design makes these fold together very smoothly and it has not been a problem so far. Its cage is similar in shape to the 6000 and that was a big factor in its favor since I already know how much better that works for me.
Every device has its own nuances that you must get used to, and the Bon4M is no exception. Fortunately, it only took a couple of attempts to get the hang of its idiosyncrasies. The lock is a little smaller than typically seen on the CBX000 series, which is nice and a little more discreet. The locking pin hole will not expose enough for the hasp to go through unless the cuff ring is slightly angled toward the cage at its top. When you get the feel right it is a very subtle pressure needed. But I mention it, because the guide posts are the biggest difference. Most of the other devices use guide posts that are similar in diameter to the locking pin. These larger guide pins essentially push loose skin out of the way and make it visually easier to line up the cage and the cuff ring properly. The Bon4M has very skinny guide posts and they are a lot closer to the locking pin. I poked myself with those guide pins several times (felt like needle play) and even once had one outside and one inside the cuff ring. Again, this is just a matter of getting used to any new device. The best rookie advice I can offer is be sure to get the penis deep in the cage (minimizing loose skin near its base) and slightly lift up the cuff ring and cage, and visually focus on the cage’s orientation to the cuff ring, instead of trying to see the guide pins to their holes. The guide pin holes are not deep and if you focus too much on the guide pins you will likely “over correct” the angle. With the cuff ring lifted slightly you will be pinching it together with the cage at the top and that should be enough to get good clearance for the hasp of the lock.
If the hasp goes through the hole, the guide pins look to be the same length on both sides, and the cage isn’t high on either side of the cuff ring, then you likely have everything positioned well. With the hasp in place but before locking you can snake a finger around the inside and outside of the cuff ring by the guide posts to ensure that they are seated in their holes and not protruding over or under the ring.
Because the cage is of the 6000 anatomical design I had to use the “sock trick”, same as I do for the CB6000 to get it on. They provide some sandpaper in case you need to smooth some edges. I did have to smooth the inner edge of the cock cage and inside near some of the bars, but it wasn’t much and I don’t consider that a detraction. BTW the sock trick is a great way to discover if there are minor rough spots that should be smoothed out.
The device weighs approximately half a pound, and subjectively only feels slightly heavier than the 6000. I doubt I will be wearing the Bon4M exclusively, but it is a very nice look and feel and is as comfortable as any device I’ve worn.
I give their customer service 5 stars and device design 4 stars. The only thing I’m taking off for on the design is the guide pin issue. Bigger pins, and a little further apart, would be easier and I can see missing the alignment from time to time on those small pins, despite having correctly hit it several times in a row lately. I also worry that the smaller guide pins could bend or break much more easily.
She got the idea from http://chastebob.tumblr.com/image/31316182828